Ever since the greatest day of my life, October 10, 2009, I have been asked by several people "How's married life???" And I always reply "It's good." Thats it, direct and to the point. But there is so much more than that. How is married life? Have you ever asked yourself that? Now I want to first say that I am no expert! We have been married for 1 year, 3 months and 8 days. But here's what I think about married life...IT'S WONDERFUL!!!
Let me elaborate. Marriage, to me, is choosing to join your life with someone else's life. To become partners, both legally and spiritually. It is being faithful and honest with one person for the rest of your life. It is choosing a life of selflessness! Before I was married, I was such a selfish person. Any money I made, I spent it on myself; either drinking, or eating or buying myself meaningless possessions. I was the only person in the universe that mattered. But that all changed on October 10th, 2009. When I said "I do," I knew I was committed my life to someone else. I knew I was saying what's mine is yours...I was saying that no matter what happens we'll be together, forever!
Marriage is full of ups and downs. Fights, arguments, disagreements, etc. But it is also full of wonderful moments. My favorite moment is when I come home and the dog comes running up to me, and Sarah is right behind waiting with a hug and a smile! I love it! I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world. Waking up to her is incredible too. When the alarm goes off she's there, when I come to bed at night she's there, when I come home from work she's there and when I dream she's there! Marriage is such a wonderful thing! One thing I hate is the negative opinion of marriage by unmarried people.
The night we were married, Sarah and I went out with our friends. We went to a bar in Jax Beach and it was so much fun! People were congratulating us and giving us high fives...but they were also yelling things like"Why'd you do it??? It's not too late!!! What an idiot!!!" I couldn't believe it...People were asking me "Why'd you get married???" Why did I get married??? I'll tell you why...I met the girl of my dreams. I met a woman who saw all my imperfections, all the hate I had in my heart, all the lies...and would still say I LOVE YOU. I got married because I met the woman I wanted to share my life with. And no other reason is more important!
Again, I've only been married a year, so I won't give any advice about marriage. But I was single for 20 years, so I will give advice on that. Don't pass judgement on anyone else's marriage! You may see a few moments of a marriage; the bitching, the complaining, the nagging! But you don't see the whole thing. You haven't even scratched the surface of a marriage! And please, before you open your dumbass mouth, remember that not all marriages are the same!!! That's all. Just keep your opinions to yourself and until you choose to join your life with someone else, forget what you think you know...BECAUSE YOU DON'T KNOW A DAMN THING!!!
I couldn't agree more. Marriage is the single most amazing, fantastic, difficult and hard thing I have ever done. It is what you make of it, and usually marriages don't work out when you're not giving it your 100% effort, and those people are in no place to give marriage advice; especially if they have never experienced it.
ReplyDeleteI for one love being married...however, I personally do not find anything different in my marriage compared to my premarital relationship with my then boyfriend. When I got married I assumed I would FEEL married. I did not, this bothered me as I had been living with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years as husband and wife without the contract.
ReplyDeleteThe only thing that changed was the fact that my family and society felt we did the right thing. This did not matter to me. I feel if you are in a committed relationship or marriage (contractual commitment) you are just as inclined to be honest (or not) to be faithful (or not) and to share (or not). It is based on the 2 people involved and is dependent on that particular relationship.
I am glad that you and I both found people we are willing to sacrifice a lot for and are happy to be with 24/7. I really think if you don't "like" the person you are with it is very difficult to love them. :-)
And of course I got me another daughter out of the deal! My family and all it's extended parts just seems to keep growing, and I couldn't be more happy and proud.
ReplyDeleteI'm not going to point out to you all the troubles I've had in the marital arena, like you said, there will be many pot-holes and piss-puddles along our path. I will tell you how wonderful my best moments have been.
I am living my best life ever and it is due in large part to a certain someone; my wife. You now have a 'certain someone' too... love her, cherish her and protect her above all other things, and then all other things will be OK.
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